Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Things I've learned from being pregnant

Now I normally just post fun things that my husband and I do and a little bit about our lives.  For anyone who knows me personally, I don't really share too much on social networking.  Everyone kept asking me when I was going to make it "Facebook official" about being pregnant.  I decided to post it here on my blog and those who chose to click on the link and read it great, I was not going to bombard my Facebook with ultrasound pictures and status updates.  I never even let the cat out of the bag until I was 20 weeks. However I see absolutely nothing wrong with that, you made a human being you have every right to be proud and show off the pictures, I just never been that open.  Recent events have happened to me to make me open up and express how I feel, there are a lot of things that people just don't prepare you for when you are pregnant.  Some of it good, some of it bad, and some things just completely mind-blowing.

Lesson of the day...people can take their opinions and shove it.  Leave me in peace for the rest of this pregnancy! I only want actual advice, not someone's shocked look when I tell them, yes I am going to attempt to use cloth diapers, like I just told them they were going to hell.

Perfect example of someone's opinion: yesterday was a great day for Logan and I, we went and had a 3D ultrasound. When you have been growing something inside your body for months...you are interested to know what they look like and who they are going to look like.  Honestly, it made me more excited to be having a baby and seeing her with my husband's cute round cheeks and see her yawn.  I came home and was very hesitate about posting one of the pictures of her face, but I thought why not, she looks like an actual baby now and some of my friends can see it and I was excited! Within minutes of posting the pic, someone who follows me on twitter and on instagram (a complete stranger who we follow each other through a blog hop) writes a rude ass comment about seeing fetuses and naked babies is a number one way to get them to unfollow you and how it's creepy...I check, yep that was about me as she is no longer following me. Did she not think I would see it since I still follow her? I am not one to want to blatantly offend or make anyone uncomfortable so I messaged her. She basically said since she isn't a mom yet, she finds images of babies on ultrasounds, naked, or on the potty, disturbing.  Did she just really call our kids disturbing?! Then she said it probably would change for her when she gets pregnant.  YES IT WILL.  If you don't want to look at other people's kids don't, but don't call an image of my child disturbing especially after I put myself out there and posted a pic of my kid.  I ended up deleting it because I was so offended, it put a dark cloud over my day, and just didn't want anymore unwanted comments.

Now, don't get me wrong, people are entitled to their opinions, however I didn't backfire at her what I find disturbing about her pictures and what she thinks is appropriate to post because people can post whatever they like, if I don't like it, I unfollow not blast it on twitter with all the negative energy sucking other negative people in.  I took the high road and said when the time comes for her, it will be different and you won't think you would get such a strong reaction from a pic of your baby's face. She didn't respond, I un-followed her. There are no written rules anywhere that you have to have a baby or even like babies, there is also a time and place to express your opinions.  I never even knew whether or not I ever wanted kids, until I met my husband and seeing his excited face and how he looked at the screen, doesn't make think that this wasn't the right thing for us for one second.

I'm learning to grow thicker skin with this pregnancy and not get wrapped up in other people's opinions, I can't even count the number of times people have offended me or hurt my feelings so far and I'm sure this is just the beginning. I feel like when it comes to births. weddings, and deaths, people really know how to stick their foot in their mouths.  I had a woman (another complete stranger in person) ask me if I was planning on natural child birth and then proceed to tell me her experience with the baby's head crowning...if that girl thinks my 3D ultrasound pic is disturbing, she has a rude awakening coming her way. Think before you speak people.




10 comments:

Lindsay said...

It's so true. Unfortunately it doesn't end once the baby is out. There will always be those rude people. Hugs - I am so happy for you and your little growing family...don't let one (two) bad apples bring you down!!

The Slogans said...

Thanks Lindsay, I really appreciate it.

thegirlwiththecupcaketattoo.com said...

Congrats, again Steph! I think its awesome that you are going to attempt to cloth diaper! When Troy and I plan on having kids, I will be doing the same thing! Troy was cloth diapered even though disposable diapers were the product of choice even 20 years ago. I think cloth diapering is a great idea, and I have full intentions of doing so! Don't let people get you down, only YOU and YOUR HUSBAND know what is right for YOUR child. Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy! :)

-Rachel

Megan said...

Re-post the 3D Ultrasound pic back on Instagram! It made my day to see your little one! Just because one person can't get pregnant and took her anger out on you about it over Instagram (of all places!), doesn't mean all your followers share that opinion. Block the negative Nancies and don't let haters rain on your happiness!

The Slogans said...

Thanks Rachel! Its just amazing what people think they can say and get away with it! I hope your wedding planning is going well... it comes up quick!

The Slogans said...

I know I know, I'm thinking about it :)

BeaumontGirl said...

People are so weird! I felt like I had a sign on my belly that said "Tell me your birth horror story please!" when I was pregnant :) Love your blog! Following you!!

http://thebees3.blogspot.com/

The Slogans said...

People really do say such strange things sometimes! I'm glad I'm not alone on this. Thanks for following. I'm going to check out your blog now :)

The Moseleys said...

Oh girl, people totally say WAY more than they should when you are pregnant. You are so nice, I say people are NOT entitled to share their opinions with me! At least not the bad ones...

The Slogans said...

I'm totally over other people's opinions about parenting, breastfeeding, sleeping, diapering, you name it. No one is a perfect parent!